Fraught...
OK, so now it is time for one of the basics of the fact LIST. There are a few of these that form the foundation for alot of the others we are going to be talking about or have talked about.
This one is fraught with symbolism and metaphoric stuff. It can (and maybe should) be a point of reference for alot of what goes on in a family. When used as a base, it helps you understand certain behaviors and at times even encourages them.
It is a point of view. It allows alot of crazy things to happen but also opens the door to do what is necessary to push the envelope. So;
Don't raise your kids to be eagles and expect them to act like sparrows
Parents am so smart...
The Dad
posted by The Dad @ 8:30 AM
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well, I guess this post is so deep that you put everyone asleep... not really ;) but it is more of a thinker than a commenter.
Yeah, this is a really good one--I've quoted it a lot. Unfortunately, I think this is one that can come back to bite you in the butt when your kids end up doing things that you don't approve of. But I guess that's the idea--eagles aren't docile and compliant.
Exactly - which is what brought up the quote in the first place. I think I remember the first time your dad said it to me (and of course I have no way of knowing if the quote is original to him or not!) I see myself standing at the stove in the kitchen (the old one, of course!) when he came home from work. 2 or 3 of you kids had been challenging, and I was either in tears or close to it. That was your dad's response to my listing of my challenges of the day! It really did make me feel better.
I realize it's a metaphor and is ment to be helpful and comforting...which I think it serves its purpose.
BUT-
If we all act like eagles how are we supposed to work together and get along?
Docile and compliant doesn't have to be characteristics of someone who gets along and makes things work.
I think you have to be an eagle to do that- getting along with other strong characters takes more strength than just being independent or compliant. It also means thinking outside of categories which can be hard and less comforting.
Does this make sense?
Good quote, though! (Obviously it made me think)
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